{"id":15509,"date":"2019-02-23T17:29:12","date_gmt":"2019-02-23T21:29:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/?p=15509"},"modified":"2019-02-24T15:04:14","modified_gmt":"2019-02-24T19:04:14","slug":"a-non-valentines-gift","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/?p=15509","title":{"rendered":"If That Isn&#8217;t Love, What Is?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>My husband and I didn&#8217;t celebrate Valentine&#8217;s Day this year. But then, on a random day this week, he presented me with a gift, fashionably tied with twine, and a little card stating that it was a &#8220;Non-Valentine&#8217;s gift, just to be clear.&#8221; The gift was two books of love poetry: <em>Love Poems (for Married People)<\/em> by John Kenney and <em>Love Poems for the Very Married<\/em> by Lois Wyse. It was a lovely, thoughtful gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That night, after we got into bed, I paged through the books and picked out a few poems to read to him. It was surprising (or not, depending on your views of marriage) how <em>unloving<\/em>, even bitter, some of the poems were. There was one so utterly perfect in its expression of disgust that we got a good, long laugh out of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Laughing with my husband is one of my favorite things. Maybe marriage has its moments of bitterness and disgust, but it also comes with unexpected gifts. I am married to a friend who I can laugh with, and if that isn&#8217;t love, what is?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My husband and I didn&#8217;t celebrate Valentine&#8217;s Day this year. But then, on a random day this week, he presented me with a gift, fashionably tied with twine, and a little card stating that it was a &#8220;Non-Valentine&#8217;s gift, just &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/?p=15509\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15509"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15509"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15509\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15515,"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15509\/revisions\/15515"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15509"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15509"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/bluefootedmusings.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15509"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}