BFFs

Poirot’s know-it-all attitude even irritates his best friend, Hastings, from time to time. In “The Million Dollar Bond Robbery,” Hastings says, “Good Lord, Poirot! Do you know, I’d give a considerable sum of money to see you make a thorough ass of yourself—just for once. You’re so confoundedly conceited!”

Poirot replies, “Do not enrage yourself, Hastings. In verity, I observe that there are times when you almost detest me! Alas, I suffer the penalties of greatness!”

He follows his reply with a comical sigh, which makes Hastings laugh.

There is no person on this planet who doesn’t occasionally get annoying. That’s why we need best friends. They forgive our imperfections, and they make us laugh.

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Monumental Feelings

I picked up some books from the library yesterday, and while was there, I noticed that someone had spruced up the monuments with fresh flags and flowers.

And I wondered what they (the sprucer-uppers and also the original erectors of the monument) wanted me to feel when looking upon this monument to combat veterans. Patriotism? Pride? Gratitude?

Grateful I am, but not proud. Not proud to live in a society that glorifies war. Not proud to be a member of the only species on earth that goes to war with itself.

I see this monument and I think about all the young soldiers, scared, wounded, dying in pain, all their dreams lost, all their talents wasted, all their families crying.

Was that what I was supposed to feel? Frankly, I’d rather the monument builders and minders spent their efforts on trying to prevent future wars, or end current ones.

To learn from our mistakes—that would be a real tribute to our war dead.

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Spring Poetry

Yesterday I saw my first robin of the spring. Seeing him made me think of one of Emily Dickinson’s poems.

A Bird came down the Walk —
He did not know I saw —
He bit an Angleworm in halves
And ate the fellow, raw,

And then he drank a Dew
From a convenient Grass —
And then hopped sidewise to the Wall
To let a Beetle pass —

He glanced with rapid eyes
That hurried all around —
They looked like frightened Beads, I thought —
He stirred his Velvet Head

Like one in danger, Cautious,
I offered him a Crumb
And he unrolled his feathers
And rowed him softer home —

Than Oars divide the Ocean,
Too silver for a seam —
Or Butterflies, off Banks of Noon
Leap, plashless as they swim.

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Deathbed Confessions

It was a cold, winter night one Christmastime when I got the call. My grandfather was in the hospital and the doctors did not think he would make it through the night. I met up with my parents, and we all took the long drive north. It was near midnight when we arrived at the hospital.

My aunt and uncle were there, watching over my grandfather as he slept.  We perched uncomfortably on the hard hospital chairs, waiting for him to wake up, hoping we’d at least get a chance to say good-bye. We talked about this and that. There was a lull in conversation, and I was quietly drowsing, when suddenly, loudly, my aunt announced, “My son’s gay.”

My mother, taken off guard, stared at my aunt for a moment in disbelief, then said, “Chick knows gay people.”

Chick knows gay people. Like I’d written the “Suburban Housewife’s Guide to Gays” or something. It was so funny that it shocked me back to wakefulness.

As they continued to discuss this amazing revelation, others things became clear. For one thing, my Gaydar was crap. Had I learned nothing at college, hanging out with gay people, dancing at gay clubs, drinking gay drinks? Apparently not. I never would have guessed that my cousin was gay.

My aunt is a big woman with an even bigger attitude, but that night she showed her equally big heart. It was a testament to her love for her son that she immediately started trying to accept him as he was, rather than to push him away or try to change him. Oh, she did it in her characteristic fashion—kicking, screaming, swearing, and name calling—but she did it.

My mother can be a stern woman, but she proved that night that she can also be flexible. It was a testament to her love for her brother and his family that she made the Olympic leap necessary to find any connection, however tenuous, to this foreign and unexpected idea. It was a stretch for her, and it was fortunate that she thought of me first, and not my brother, because “My son has a gay neighbor” might not have gone over as well.

And it was a testament to the atmosphere of love and acceptance that my grandfather created around him, even as he lay near death, that these two women, so different from one another, could wrestle with their prejudices together at such a difficult time—and win!

They weren’t the only ones victorious that night. My grandfather pulled through. He stayed with us until April 7, four years ago today. My cousin, who is lucky to live in a state where same-sex marriage is legal, has since married. Now everyone in the family can say that they know gay people. And they know that gay people are just people, people who need their mothers, their aunties, and their cousins, and who miss their grandfathers, just like the rest of us.

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Facts and Theories

According to M. Poirot,

[People] conceive a certain theory, and everything has to fit into that theory. If one little fact will not fit it, they throw it aside. But it is always the facts that will not fit in that are significant.

from Death on the Nile

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The Truth About Bakers

Just because someone bakes yummy cakes doesn’t mean they’re nice.

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Reading in 2010

I read 59 books in 2010. That’s not too bad considering that pregnancy diverted most of my mental energy for the better part of the year. Of course, most of the books were either children’s books or mysteries, which means they were relatively short and simple. So what. I read what I wanted to read and I enjoyed myself.

Favorite overall: There were so many A’s that it’s hard to choose, but I think my favorite was probably Charlotte’s Web by E.B. white.

Favorite reread: Several of the books from 2010 were rereads, but Dragondoom by Dennis L. McKiernan stood out. It’s so good and so bad. It’s a guilty pleasure.

Biggest surprise: I had very low expectations when I started reading The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, but I ended up loving it. It was my second favorite for the year.

We are well into 2011, but I haven’t done much reading yet. My daughter is nearly three months old now, and she’s starting to settle into a routine that includes a couple of naps. I hope this means I’ll be able to find more time for reading soon.

Wishing everyone another great year of reading,

Chick

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A Little Advice

A little advice from M. Poirot:

One must not permit oneself to be obsessed by one idea.

from The Big Four

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Picture My Walk

I went for a walk in the woods yesterday. As usual, I brought my camera, but it was unusually hard to find a visually attractive subject. The landscape looked much the same as it had in the fall. The ground was still brown with fallen leaves. The trees were still naked and spindly. The rocks were still rough, unforgiving lumps of gray. Gray, gray, gray. Even the sky was gray. Only lichens, mosses, and pine trees provided some relief from the neutral colors.

But why am I going on and on when I have pictures to show you?

First, imagine Verizon’s “Can you hear me now?” guy walking through this scraggly landscape.

It may look desolate and far from civilization, but if you take just a few steps forward, this will be your view:

Ironically, when I am out and about in the woods, communing with Nature, I have excellent cell-phone reception, presumably thanks to those towers on the horizon. At home, behind the big, rocky hill on which I stood to take this picture, I’m lucky if I get a single bar.

Those birds in the sky are turkey vultures—ugly up-close but beautiful in the sky. Did you know that the turkey vulture can find food by its scent?

Back on the ground, there are so many types of mosses and lichens. There are pillowy green mosses, like this.

And there are many weird, silvery gray to pale green varieties of lichen, some of which spread in creepy patches on trees, or like a rash on the rocks, and some in rounded masses on the soil.

While there is green to be found, brown is the dominant color on the ground. The hungry eye searches for anything interesting among the papery leaves and brittle grass. Any distinct shape is like a feast after famine.There are trees that hold on to their shriveled leaves through the winter. Some of the leaves curl up like seashells. When the wind whirls by, the leaves shake and whisper in a way that can send shivers up your spine if you’re all alone in the woods.

As I make my way back down the hill, icy snow flurries fall hard enough to pitter-patter on the ground. I try to capture a snowflake on my glove, but it melts away even as I aim the camera.

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May 27, 2002

England, Here I Am!

The train pulled into Bath at a time that was morning for the British, but well past bedtime for us. The first order of business was to acquire some English currency. This we accomplished the old-fashioned way: an ATM machine. We had read this was the cheapest and easiest way to do it, and it works great, at least if you know your PIN number. English ATM keys do not have letters on them. I knew my PIN only as a word, not a number. I had to stand aside to let other people use the machine while I puzzled out the PIN (“Don’t mind me. I’m just a stupid tourist!”).

Next we did something very frugal but not exactly fun. We needed to get from the train station to the hotel, which was at the top of the hill. Rather than pay for a cab, we trudged up the hill, gamely pulling our luggage behind us. When we got to the hotel room, I could have slept for the rest of the day, but Faithful Reader would only let me nap for an hour. I don’t know if staying awake for most of the day helped me adjust to local time or if it just made me crankier. I was definitely cranky.

We stayed at a place called Brocks Guest House, a beautiful Georgian house, well kept and attractively decorated, and conveniently located between two of Bath’s most notable architectural features, the Royal Crescent and the Circus.

There we learned many more things about travel in England. For one thing, parking is tight. Looking out the back window, we could see a parking lot and every space (every single area in which you could have fit a car) was filled. Only the car at the very end could leave without having to wait for other cars to be moved.

Another thing that’s tight is bathroom space. Rooms that have bathrooms en suite are almost inevitably retrofitted. Consequently, the showers are tiny, barely wide enough to wash yourself without banging your elbows against the cold shower walls. Strangely, most of the bathrooms at the hotels in which we stayed had wall-to-wall carpeting. With the threat of nasty plumbing mishaps always looming, who would risk carpeting in the bathroom? The British, I guess. It was odd, but very comfortable for the feet, so I’m not complaining.

But the British are very generous with refreshments. I think every room we stayed at had the makings for tea and coffee, and all but one had little packages of cookies. We snacked on the cookies before leaving for our explorations.

It was probably mid-afternoon when we left the hotel. We scouted out the lay of the land and wandered rather desperately until the restaurants finally opened for dinner. Downtown Bath has suffered the intrusion of chain stores but it nevertheless has a charm that you don’t often find in modern cities. The abbey, the Roman Baths, the cobbled streets—they all add to the feeling of living for a moment in the distant past.

Bath also did not lack for restaurants serving ethnic cuisines. I looked forward to sampling some new flavors. We ate dinner at a Thai restaurant. Its only real virtue, as it turned out, was that it opened earlier than most of the other restaurants in town. I used my credit card to pay for that dinner, and I remember fretting over whether or not to leave a tip. There was a place for it on the receipt, but I had thought that the British didn’t subscribe to tipping, and that it was really more of an American thing. I couldn’t remember for sure, so I left one, just in case. I probably got ripped off.

I also didn’t know until I returned to the States that every credit card transaction in England was costing me a fee. When I got home and saw my statement, I was furious. It added up to something like $40.00, so I called up my credit card company and complained. Miracle of miracles, they took the fees off as a “one-time courtesy,” proving yet again that it never hurts to ask. Sometimes it’s good to be ignorant. Had I known about the fees while I was using the credit card, I never would have complained about them.

Having filled ourselves with food, we wandered a bit more and then went back to the hotel room to sleep (finally!).

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