Twitter asked me today, “If you’re married, do you wear your ring all the time?” I will answer that question here. First I have to say that I love my husband, and I love the ring, and I love that my husband bought the ring for me as a surprise gift before our wedding. It is beautiful. However, the answer is no. I do not wear my wedding ring all the time, or even at all these days.
I have good reasons, though. When we first got married, I wore the ring all day, every day. I was proud to wear it. But, as I went about my daily business–washing dishes, playing piano, etc.–I kept accidentally banging the ring into things, which was a danger to the ring and to the things it banged into and even, occasionally, to my hand. I am a bit of a klutz, and that was working against me.
For a while I tried simply taking the ring off whenever I had to do something with my hands. That was fine until I misplaced it a few times, and I realized that if I continued that way, I was going to lose the ring forever. I am notoriously absent-minded.
So then I started wearing the ring just for social occasions (i.e., whenever I was out of the house and likely to talk to anyone). That worked well. To everyone in the outside world, it would seem as if I always wore the ring, and I got to enjoy wearing it at those times without the worry of wrecking or losing it.
But currently I don’t wear the ring at all, because I’ve lost weight and it’s too big for me now. The last time I wore it, it randomly slipped off my hand. Fortunately, I was inside and the ring simply rolled across the floor, not into a gutter or a lake. Still, the incident upset me, and I haven’t worn the ring since. Someday, when the pandemic is over, I will take it to a jeweler and have it resized. Then I will go back to wearing it for social occasions, and it will be a joy both to wear the ring again and to have social occasions again!