Bloodthirsty

It pains me to remember how I thought of winter moths when I first moved to Rhode Island. I’d see them fluttering around leafy areas on the chilly nights of late fall, and I’d think, “How unusual to see moths at this time of year.” I thought that they were interesting.

But I also assumed that they were a local phenomenon. I didn’t know then that they were an invasive species. I wonder how many times my husband and I drove through those fluttering hordes, commenting on how their numbers had increased, without any realization of how awful that was.

Then our trees were decimated by caterpillars last spring, and I did some research. I found out that those moths came out at night to mate, and that from this activity would come the voracious caterpillars of spring. I now hate the sight of them.

Alas, there are so many to hate this year! We’ve learned from previous experience that we should leave the exterior lights off at this time of year, because the lights attract the moths. But one night we forgot. We turned on the light, and this is the scene that greeted my husband when he returned home.

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He didn’t dare enter that way. He went around back to try the kitchen door, but that door had several dozen attached to it. He tried to keep them out as he entered, but some of them chased him inside.

The kids wanted to rescue the moths that had invaded our house. My husband and I shouted, “No, kill them!” The poor kids could not understand why we were being so bloodthirsty, because we usually gently catch bugs and release them outside.

But we weren’t going to play nice with winter moths, uh-uh. My husband vacuumed the beasties from the cabinets, walls, and ceiling. I watched with great satisfaction. I wish we had a vacuum cleaner big and powerful enough to suck up every last winter moth in Rhode Island!

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Reading Rainbow

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Yesterday the sun streamed through the window at just the right angle so that it went through a glass candle holder and threw a rainbow on the page as I was reading. It was a real “Reading Rainbow!”

P.S. The book was A Snicker of Magic by Natalie Lloyd.

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“S” Is for “Satsuma”

My husband went to Whole Foods the other day to pick up our Thanksgiving turkey. While he was there he bought some oranges, not because we needed oranges for our Thanksgiving feast, but because they were a variety he had never seen before. They were bright and fresh-looking, sold with stems and leaves still attached, so how could he resist? But by the time he got home, he had forgotten the name of the variety. He knew only that it started with an “S.”

A couple of days later I was watching an episode of Doctor Who. The Doctor found an orange in the pocket of a borrowed bathrobe. He said, “What have I got in here? A satsuma!” Then he said some things that would make no sense unless you know that in England the satsuma is sometimes called a “Christmas orange” and that they use it as a stocking stuffer. Finally, the Doctor used the satsuma to defeat the alien bad guy and save the Earth.

“Satsuma” starts with “S,” of course, and that’s how I discovered the identity of our mystery orange. And because I was interested to learn more about it, I looked it up on-line, which is how I came to understand what the Doctor had been saying about it.  I love this kind of happy coincidence!

On-line, the satsuma is described as easy-to-peel, sweet, and tender. Having eaten a few, I agree. I might even like satsumas better than clementines. Not only are they tasty, but they could come in handy the next time I have to battle aliens.

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Daily Checklist

I’ve been thoroughly miserable lately. I even have some cause to be miserable. That is, there are external factors (problems that aren’t just in my head) working against me. But I know that happiness is a state of mind. You have to will yourself to be happy. And to do that, you have to make the effort to 1. Do things you enjoy, and 2. Enjoy the things you do. It also helps to take care of yourself. So I’ve come up with a checklist of daily activities that I think might help to improve my outlook on life.

  • Eat breakfast.
  • Eat lunch.
  • Listen to music.
  • Write for at least 15 minutes.
  • Read for at least 30 minutes.
  • Take a walk.
  • Drink at least one large glass of water.
  • Dance/stretch for at least 10 minutes.
  • Pause to consider someone or something for which you’re grateful.
  • Do something you’ve been putting off.
  • Reach out to someone.
  • Find a reason to leave the house for a while.
  • Praise yourself for something.

There are other things I could and perhaps should do every day, but these are enough to start with. And having written this post while listening to music, I can cross two items off the checklist for today!

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Who’s the Psychic?

When I was a child, my mother often told me that I was psychic. Apparently I used to just randomly come up to her and start talking about whatever she happened to be thinking at the moment, and I did it often enough that she felt coincidence could not explain it. Even now, she swears that I used to read her mind.

I never really understood how my so-called “psychic power” must have made her feel until yesterday, when something similar happened to me. I was thinking about how I was going to make some popcorn as soon as Marshall returned home from school. Suddenly Livia barged into the room and announced, “I want some popcorn!”

We hadn’t had popcorn in weeks, and it’s not her favorite snack by any means. What a strange coincidence that she should mention it at exactly the moment that I was thinking about it. It was really, really weird.

The thing is, though my mother claims that I have (or had) psychic powers, I don’t believe in them. I don’t believe that I’ve ever been psychic. I don’t believe that Livia’s psychic.

I believe in coincidence. I’ve seen plenty of weird examples of coincidence. I know coincidences happen.

But if this kind of weird and unsettling thing were to happen again and again and again, then I might have to wonder who’s the psychic!

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Don’t You Hate It When…

Don’t you hate it when you wake up feeling tired, nauseous, and headachy?

Don’t you hate it when you want to write something but your brain refuses to cooperate?

Don’t you hate it when the speed at which time passes keeps changing so that you’re constantly confused about what time of day it is?

Don’t you hate it when the people you love are sick and there’s nothing you can do but wait for them to feel better?

Don’t you hate it when there are all sorts of fun and interesting things you want to do but you can’t because you have to work ALL day?

Don’t you hate it when your fingers are cold and nothing you do seems to warm them up?

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A Modest Goal

It’s impossible to have a full-time job and be a full-time mom, let alone have any time left for oneself, and I’ve been feeling that very keenly lately. I’ve had to let a lot of things slide, and feeling bad about that has caused me to allow yet other things to slide. Not good. So I’ve been concentrating on finding time for me. I’m rereading one of my favorite books (Magician by Raymond E. Feist). I’ve been listening to Muse and Coldplay. I’ve been practicing piano pieces by Chopin, Debussy, and Ryuichi Sakamoto. I’ve even managed to take a few hikes.

It’s a start, but still not enough. Writing is something that I enjoy, too, and seeing this blog so empty depresses me. It’s November, and I ought to be writing a novel, but I would settle for a couple of blog posts! At the least, I ought to post about the kids’ soccer season and show you some pictures from my recent hikes. So my modest goal for this month is to write two posts. Just two. And if I can’t manage that, well, then I’ll really have reason to feel sorry for myself!

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Soccer and Ice Cream

Dear Kids,

You played soccer for the first time this fall. Games started on the first Saturday after the first practice, so you were in the game before you really knew how to play it. You were confused at first (and no wonder), but you figured things out.

My favorite memories of Marshall’s soccer season are the moments when he seemed to be in his own world during the games. He once spent most of his stint as goalie hanging from the crossbar of the goal. So, before the next game, I kept saying, “No hanging from the goal!” And he didn’t hang from the goal during the next game. Instead, he lay down on the field whenever there was a lull. So before the following game, I kept saying, “And no lying down during the game!” To give him just due, he didn’t love soccer, but he went to every practice and game without complaint. He had fun, just maybe not in the same way as the other kids did.

Livia really enjoyed playing. She scored several goals over the course of the season, but she seemed equally happy to be simply running up and down the field with an aggressive, I’m-gonna-get-that-ball look on her face. My favorite memory of her soccer season was the time that she was pelting down the field when she suddenly stopped, bent down, and picked a dandelion. It was also cute how, after discovering that her coach would pick her up if she fell, she would occasionally throw herself to the ground on purpose.

After playing in the hot sun, you deserved a cool reward. So sometimes on Saturday afternoons, after you had both finished your games, I took you to the ice cream shop. The nice thing about doing stuff with you kids is that there’s almost always something in it for me. Not only did I enjoy watching you experience new ice cream flavors for the first time, but the ice cream shop makes a delicious, decaf, low-fat pumpkin ice cream coffee drink. Yum. So a good time was had by all.

Livia wants to play soccer again next year. Marshall isn’t that interested. I think we might sign you both up again, though. Marshall might not have loved it, but the fresh air and exercise were good for him. Plus he liked the after-game ice cream, and so did I. Soccer is a great excuse to go for ice cream!

Love,

Mom

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Mama Didn’t Raise No Cannibal

Marshall says the sweetest things. Here’s what he told me tonight.

“I love you so much I can’t even think of eating you!”

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About You Kids

Dear Kids,

Here are some stories about you.

One day Daddy told Marshall that he could understand Peeps. When Marshall mentioned Daddy’s amazing ability to communicate with cats, Livia agreed, exclaiming, “One time we were under the table and Peeps told Daddy where we were!” Since then, Livia claims to have learned to speak Cat herself. Marshall and I are now the only ones in the house who can’t.

One day Marshall told me to get back to work because it would make my brain smarter.

You each have a couple dozen stuffed animals, but you’re always fighting over my stuffed crocodile, who is named Crocky, and my stuffed ray, who is called DoReMi. Livia often asks, “Can Crocky sleep over to me?” In return, she sometimes brings me one of her stuffed animals to sleep with.

Livia is a picky eater. She often refuses to eat food that she ought to like. For example, she liked butter, bread, and cheese, and yet she wouldn’t eat grilled cheese sandwiches. She also didn’t like French toast, which I thought was crazy. So one day I decided to trick her by offering her “Special Cheesy Bites,” which was, of course, grilled cheese cut into small pieces. I told her that they were made with extra love. She was skeptical at first, but then she tried them, and she liked them! A few days later, I offered her “Special Frenchy Bites,” which were not only made with extra love, but which came served with a little pool of syrup on one side of the plate and a dollop of whipped cream on the other. The Frenchy bites were a huge success, but Marshall wasn’t fooled for a second. “Tell Livia the truth about Special Frenchy Bites, Mommy! And tell her about Special Cheesy Bites!” he demanded. He was determined that she should know the truth, and I’m pretty sure that she does now. That’s OK, though. Yesterday morning, when I was mixing eggs for French toast (and Special Frenchy Bites), she asked if she could add some love, too. I gave her permission, and she waved her hands over the eggs and said, “LOVE!”

I pick Marshall up at the bus stop every afternoon. He is impatient and has to be reminded almost every day to stay behind the white line until the monitor tells him it’s safe to cross the road. When he finally gets the go-ahead, a huge smile blooms on his face. He shouts “Mommy!” and runs across the road to hug me.

Marshall is a slugabed. (I wonder where he gets that from?) He wraps himself up in his sheet like a mummy and refuses to get out of bed. I’ve tried all sorts of tactics to roust him. None of them work particularly well or reliably. This morning, though, I told him that I had built a zoo in the backyard overnight and that the animals were playing on his swingset. I apologized for the broken slide (which the lion had shredded with his claws), and told him about the trouble that the monkeys were making. Marshall got out of bed, because he wanted to know more. Over breakfast, the two of you elaborated on my story. Suddenly it was raining hippos! I was concerned that if a hippo hit our house, it would crash right through the roof. But you explained that our roof was made of rubber. The hippos all bounced off (BOING!) and landed in Paris! Marshall knew that this was just a story. And yet, before he got on the bus, he checked his swingset to make sure it was OK, and then reported back to me, saying, “There are no animals in the yard, Mommy!”

Thanks to you, I live in a world where people can speak to cats, and love is an ingredient of French toast, and hippos can bounce to Paris. I love that world. And I love you.

Mommy

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