How the Turns Have Tabled

  • Livia told me that free verse is bad poetry, and I tried to persuade her to the contrary. This was a strange argument for me to have, because just a few years ago I would have agreed with her. Now I find myself arguing in favor of the same style of poetry I once despised. Life surprises.
  • Later, she and I were chatting about something else that had completely changed, and she started to say “How the tables have turned” but she caught herself halfway through and said instead, “How the turns have tabled.” “Whew!” I replied. “For a minute I thought you were going to say it the wrong way!” We had a good chuckle over that.
  • On a more serious note, reversals happen all the time. It’s important to learn how to live with change and disappointment, and to laugh at them where we can. I recently had to absorb some bad news. An occurrence I’d long anticipated, and which had finally appeared on the horizon, will unfortunately not be happening any time soon. Something’s gone wrong, and others will have to sort it out. So I settle in for another long wait, and life goes on. At least I have two great kids and a husband to crack me up every day.
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Nostalgia

My music teacher, attempting to translate the title of a musical work, asked me, “How’s your German?” I replied, “If it wasn’t in `Hogan’s Heroes,’ I don’t know it.” I meant that as a joke, of course, but it was also close to the truth. I did learn a certain amount of German from that show, and life hasn’t afforded many other opportunities to pick up the language.

Anyway, that conversation got me thinking nostalgically about Hogan’s Heroes. It wasn’t my kind of show when I was a kid, but my brother liked it, and we only had one TV, so I ended up watching it fairly frequently. I doubt that I really got the humor then. Now, having recently streamed the first few episodes of the show, I’m impressed by how funny it is. It has held up well. The lead actor–Bob Crane–turned out to have been a bad person in real life, but he died a long time ago, and it’s hard to hold any strong feelings against him. Plus, the real “hero” of the show was Werner Klemperer. Crane may have had natural appeal, but without Klemperer’s blundering Klink, the show would have been dead in the water. And John Banner’s character, Sergeant “I know nothing!” Schultz, was and probably always will be the one that I remember most fondly.

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Because Duh

It’s been a cold winter so far. We had one cold snap so deep that the temperature was hovering around 0 when the kids were headed out to the bus stop. They don’t normally wear coats, let alone hats, gloves, scarves, or boots. I let that slide most of the time. Parents have to pick their battles, and this issue usually doesn’t seem worth the fight. I figure if the kids want to be cold, that’s their problem. But, on those several frigid mornings, I tried in vain to talk the kids into wearing any winter wear, even if it were only gloves. They absolutely refused. “It’s not that cold,” they said.

It was that cold, however, and as a mom, all I could think about were freak situations in which they’d need warm gear and didn’t have it. Like, say the bus broke down and there was no heat, or there was a fire alarm at school that forced the kids outside. I know such things aren’t likely, but I also know that it’s good to have a jacket when the temperature is below freezing.

When I mention this to other people, they say, “We were probably the same way when we were kids.” Were we, though? I definitely didn’t do everything my parents suggested I should, but I’m pretty sure I wore a jacket when it was that cold outside, because duh.

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Thoughts from September 2024

I watched the original Planet of the Apes movie with Marshall recently. As a child, it was one of my favorite films, so it seemed like it would be a great movie to share with him. Watching it with an adult’s eye, the movie is awfully slow at times, bogged down with talk of theology, philosophy, and politics–things that a kid, even a teenager, probably wouldn’t much care about. (As an adult, I find them more interesting, but I know there was a time in my life when I would have found them extremely boring and/or over my head.)

And of course the special effects (largely, people in ape costumes) would not impress a modern viewer. Still, I knew there was that big payoff waiting at the end, but I began to wonder if he would even make it that far. That kid, he kept saying things like, “Is Taylor sure he’s not on Earth? How likely is it that apelike creatures would evolve somewhere else?” So, I don’t know if the movie had already been spoiled for him by the Internet, or if he was just too smart for the movie, but I doubt the ending came as any big surprise.

Oh, well. Shortly after, he and I and my husband watched Godzilla Minus One. The movie was new to all of us, but we all saw the ending coming a mile away. So maybe we’re just good that way.

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Ooof

I have a random-quote feature on my blog. Most people who have been to my site have probably never noticed it. I don’t add to the quotation database often, I rarely think of it, and I don’t remember everything I’ve added. So, every once in a while, I see a quote on my own blog that hits me in a hard way, like this one:

There is a word in Russian that refers to refugees and people who run: bezhentsy. This applies to people who are running from the bullets, from the bombs, in this war. There are some Russians — dancers and maybe athletes — who run more gracefully than others. In my very small way, I am trying to support them. In the end, we all run from somebody.

Mikhail Baryshnikov

Ooof.

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Cake Stomach

Earlier this year, when my daughter was cutting her birthday cake, she asked me how big I wanted my slice to be. I told her to give me a small one. My husband said the same, adding, “When you get older, you lose your cake stomach.” Then, as he was loading ice cream on top of his slice of cake, Livia quipped, “So you lose your cake stomach, but not your ice cream stomach, eh?”

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Mystery Vandal

For Christmas I received a daily desk calendar with so-called “words from the wise” (quotes by famous people). One morning I was surprised to see that the day’s calendar page had writing on it. It said, “FU Joyce Brothers! FU!” Oh, my. I wondered what Joyce Brothers could possibly have said to prompt such a reaction.

Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.

Dr. Joyce Brothers

Hmm. That doesn’t seem so bad. There’s nothing wrong with positive thinking.

But, the phrasing also implies that failure is brought on by failing to think of oneself as a success. Could that be it? I don’t know. I often find that my logic is not the same as other people’s logic, and I can’t assume that I’ve understood the quote in the same way as others. Also, for all I know, the angry response was to Joyce Brothers herself, not to that particular quote. Maybe she was, in her own way, as bad as certain other famous TV doctors whom we know to be quacks and snake-oil salesmen. So I hope that the mystery vandal will read my post and comment to let me know exactly what the issue was, because I’m curious.

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Fortuitous Reading

I have a new bad habit: every time I reach down to the floor to grab something or stand up from a seated position, I make a noise that’s anywhere from a gasp to a groan. I can’t seem to stop myself. And it’s so annoying, because it’s not like these activities are really taking any great effort. So why do I make these noises?

How fortunate that I happened across an article to explain exactly that.

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Getting My Paws on Some Pawpaws

Ever since I was a child and learned the song “Way Down Yonder in the Pawpaw Patch,” I’ve been curious about pawpaws.

Pawpaw fruit is notoriously delicate and ephemeral, so unless you live close to where pawpaws grow, you don’t get to have any. As a lifelong New Englander, I’d resigned myself to never tasting a pawpaw unless I happened to visit the South at the right time of year. Then I found out that there was a farm in Rhode Island that not only grew them, but also sold them. For years, I was eager to get my paws on some, and in the early fall of 2024, I finally did.

Rocky Point Farm in Warwick, Rhode Island is an urban farm, the access point hidden away on a residential street. They sell pawpaws only a few days of the week in mid-September and through October. You have to show up early to get in line, because they sell out within twenty minutes, even though they limit the amount that people are allowed to buy.

Luckily there were some people, but not a lot, already in line when we arrived. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have known where to go. Standing with these random people in this weird location and then paying in cash for a little stash of fresh and frozen pawpaws, it was almost like joining a secret society (“or a cult,” my husband added when I said as much). As the other people drove away with their pawpaws, my husband also joked about us clearly not fitting in well, because everyone else had an electric car.

Those pawpaws cost a pretty penny, I tell you, but they filled the car with the most heavenly smell. Since we were near the ocean, we decided to stop at a seafood restaurant and enjoy a nice dinner together. We didn’t look closely at the fruit until we got home, at which time we were surprised to see that some of the pawpaws were downright black in spots. Whether they’d been that way at the time of purchase or whether they’d turned black during the couple of intervening hours, we’re not sure, but it was clear that they were already degrading and would only get worse. They needed to be eaten or frozen that very night. So we ate a few, and we froze the rest.

People say that the flavor of a pawpaw is like a mix of banana, pineapple, and mango. Our experience was mixed. A couple of the pawpaws were the sweet and custardy treat we’d been told to expect. Yum! Others were mealy. Some had far more seed than flesh. Some were bitter or had a vaguely vomitous aftertaste. Overall, we weren’t sure we liked them very much.

We watched a few YouTube videos about pawpaws afterward, and what we learned is that each pawpaw tree is genetically unique. Some will produce good-tasting fruit and/or fruit with plenty of flesh. Some will produce yucky fruit and/or fruit that’s mostly seeds. So, they’re like apples that way. If you want to be guaranteed good fruit, you need a graft from a tree that produces good fruit. So, perhaps the farm’s pawpaw patch was naturally seeded, and that’s why the fruit quality was so varied.

Someday, after horticulturists have had their way with the pawpaw plant, we may be able to get pawpaws that last longer than a day and that have small seeds and that are consistently tasty. Until that happens, I don’t think I’m going to buy any more pawpaws, but I’m sure glad that my husband and I went on our little pawpaw adventure. It was a fun and informative day.

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Bugs and Worms

  • Last year my husband spotted his first spotted lantern fly. He was across town at the time, nowhere near our property, but it’s only a matter of time before the bugs work their way over here. Related: a couple of weeks ago, I read that emerald ash borers have been discovered in the parkland near our home. I knew they were in town, but I didn’t know how close. I love our ash trees, and I will be so sad if they die. Last time I checked, there were no holes in the bark, but I was looking at eye level and below. Who knows what’s happened since or what’s going on higher up the trunks?
  • My brain is cruel to me. Not only does it have a propensity for ear worms, but it also latches on to certain ideas and phrases (thought worms?) and then repeats them over and over again. For example, I’ve been studying music theory, and one night before bed I was reading about second inversion triads and their uses. One use is the “cadential 6-4.” My brain latched onto that phrase, and all night my dreams were plagued with references to the cadential 6-4. I slept very poorly. Afterward, I hoped that there might be a bright side–that I wouldn’t soon forget what a cadential 6-4 was–but damned if I could define it for you now!
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