Creativity Club

Dear Kids,

One night last year, Livia was working on a story. She asked if she could write downstairs. “Of course!” I replied (because if somebody want to write, then they should be able to write anywhere they want to!). And, because I had been thinking of doing some writing myself, I asked if she wanted to join my Writing Club. She did, and then Marshall asked to join, too.

So the three of us gathered at the dining room table to write. But while Marshall likes joining clubs, he doesn’t like writing that much, so we decided to give ourselves a different name: Creativity Club. In Creativity Club, you can do anything that’s creative, including writing, drawing, coloring, and Legos.

Livia and I worked on our writing while Marshall made some art. Livia is the kind of writer who loves to share her work, not just when it’s done but every step of the way. And Marshall likes to tell stories about his art while he’s working on it. So there was a lot of sharing going on. Then Livia looked at me and said, “What did you write?” “Oh, nothing.” I replied. She didn’t believe me. “Read us some of what you wrote, Mommy!”

So, Livia had shared her work, and Marshall had shared his. If Mommy didn’t share, then Mommy would be a poor sport, and she would risk teaching you to hide your creative work and be shy. And the truth is, I’ve always been terrified of damaging your creativity. I want so badly for you to be creative people, and I’ve been carefully and deliberately encouraging you to lead creative lives. I’ve tried to show you how easy it is. I’ve made a total ass out of myself repeatedly. I’ve danced silly dances, and I’ve sung impromptu songs, and I’ve made countless types of art with you. But still, what if I make a mistake? Sometimes it only takes one,  just one stupid word or action, and a kid stops wanting to be creative forever.

So there I was, on the hot seat, having been asked to share my writing. I had only been doing writing exercises, and most of it didn’t even make sense. What to do? Well, I picked the parts that were at least real sentences, and I read them aloud as if they meant something. You told me they were good. That’s how very sweet you are. Whew! Creativity saved.

We have had many meetings of Creativity Club since. We all enjoy the time together, and often we listen to music as we work. I set my computer up for streaming, and you pick your favorite music. Among other things, you like Imagine Dragons, Maroon 5, Taylor Swift, Rachel Platten, and Marshall’s favorite: the soundtrack for Shin Godzilla.

It’s not quite all sunshine and roses. We do have the occasional clash in Creativity Club. For example, one time Marshall claimed that he was the president of our club. I told him that he couldn’t be president but that he could be VP in Charge of Mascots. Everyone was happy . . . for about a minute. The next thing I knew, Livia was crying because our new VP in Charge of Mascots had declared that Ellie the Elephant could not be a Creativity Club mascot! How fortunate that our club does have a president—me. I declared Ellie an official mascot. Peace was restored and creativity saved yet again.

With love and encouragement in all things creative,

Mom

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Too Much Coffee

I think I have fully proven that coffee makes me anxious.

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Mamma Mia!

I woke up extra early today. This happens from time to time, but usually I just lie in bed until I finally fall back asleep. Not this morning. Thanks to having watched Mamma Mia! for the first (and last) time last night, the music of ABBA was playing in my head, chasing the sleep away. Watching that movie turns out to have been a mistake on more than one level.

But there was one benefit to my early waking. I went into the mudroom to put something in the mini-fridge and unexpectedly stepped into a puddle of water. Mamma mia! We had sprung a leak. A leaky pipe is no fun first thing in the morning, but it’s better to find it sooner rather than later.

My husband didn’t enjoy being woken up to deal with it. At least he can go back to sleep, though. He doesn’t have Dancing Queen playing in his head over and over.

There ought to be a limit to how many times one’s mind can think the word “tambourine” per day, don’t you think?

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Love Is Blue

Blue, blue my world is blue.

Blue is my world now I’m without you.

These are the opening lines of a song called Love Is Blue (L’amour Est Bleu), which was an easy listening hit of 1968. I loved that song when I was a child. I had it on record, and I used to play it on my little record player. It seems almost preposterous to me that I’m old enough to have used that technology. But yes, record players were still a thing when I was young, and not just for sound aficionados as they are today. Everybody had one, even kids.

Nowadays we stream music. Its cheap and convenient. I can listen to multiple renditions of Love Is Blue right now, virtually for free. Life was different in the ’70s, though. Back then, music was expensive and sometimes difficult to acquire. Once lost, it usually couldn’t be had again. So we treasured our records. Part of the reason I loved that particular record so much was that I didn’t own very many. But I guess I didn’t love it quite enough to take care of it. I left it on the floor.

Do you know what else I had back then? A rocking chair. I’m sure you can guess what happened next. I sat down on my rocking chair. Crack! Good-bye record. I’m not sure which I miss more now: the chair or the record. I eventually broke the chair, too. I wish I could have them both back. Blue, blue, my world is blue. Blue is my world now I’m without you.

The moral of the story is that you shouldn’t leave the things you love lying on the floor. If only I could impart this wisdom upon my children. Everything they own is on the floor! I keep trying to explain to them what will happen if they don’t start taking care of their things. I’d like to spare them some regret, but perhaps this is a lesson that we each have to learn for ourselves. Maybe it only becomes clear when we’ve lost a cherished thing through our own carelessness, and it has made us feel blue.

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Day to Declutter

My goals for the weekend are the same every time. I always plan to do cleaning and laundry, to go shopping, and to make sure the children get fed. That’s all.

Ideally I’d also plan some fun activities, but it never seems to happen. I think part of the problem is that we’re always fighting against our clutter. It’s not just the stuff that we have in piles around the house. Mental clutter is also getting in the way.

So, my extra task for today is to finish gathering all the remaining blog and story ideas strewn about my office, organize the good ones, and throw away the rest. This will require going through some piles of papers, which means I’ll be working toward one of my larger 2018 goals. Today is a day to declutter!

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Tick Resolutions Don’t Stick

I commented on Facebook just a few weeks ago that I wasn’t going to read any articles about ticks this year. “Ticks are scary enough all by themselves,” I said. ” I don’t need to read, or think, or worry about them more.”

So true. I wish I had stuck to the spirit of that statement and stayed away from all news about ticks. But, last night, when my husband told me there was going to be a scary tick report on TV, I couldn’t help myself. I stayed, and I watched. What the newscasters told us was awful: one guy, one short walk, 26 ticks. Ugh.

But let’s think for a moment. Is this really any different from what I saw here last year? There is a wooded area that I must walk through to get from my yard to the park trail. The path is narrow, and it’s usually impossible to get through the area without touching any plants. I always assume, even when it’s below freezing, that I’ll get ticks on me. I check myself carefully once I’m through, and I often find a tick. But there was at least one occasion last year when I found three, all from just that little patch of woods. So, for a longer walk in a similar area, would 26 be a startling number?

No, not at all. Assuming the same tick density, his walk would only have to be nine times longer than mine. That’s a brief walk, well under ten minutes. Ticks love the woodsy areas that we (suburbanites) have created for them, and I suspect that climate change is also benefiting them. It’s too bad, but it’s the reality that we have to live with now. I know it, and I should just accept that I know it and stick to my resolution to stay away from news about ticks!

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There’s Still Time

As I was looking through my folder of draft posts today, I found this old list. It ought to have been published earlier this year, but I never finished it. Everything on it still sounds like a good goal, so here it is.

To Do in 2018

  1. Finish sorting and dealing with the stacks of paper that have accumulated in my bedroom and office.
  2. Bring bags of old clothing and toys to the donation store. They’re all set aside already. They just need to be taken to the place.
  3. Finish the novel. I haven’t been working on it, and it’s getting more and more distant in my mind. Not good.
  4. Hang up the pictures that are leaning against the wall.
  5. Put pictures in the frames that are sitting empty.
  6. Sort through my wardrobe. Discard what I don’t want. Buy what I need.
  7. Sign the kids up for music lessons.
  8. Sign up for an awesome, once-in-a-lifetime vacation for the family. It’s a pricey endeavor, but we’ve earned it.
  9. Make final decisions of my piano repertoire and make recordings of me playing it all. I can’t continue to play at this level for much longer, so I want to be able to look back and be proud of what I accomplished.
  10. Figure out how to use my new camera and start taking pictures.
  11. Broaden my hiking horizons. There are so many places in Rhode Island and Massachusetts to explore.
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Writing and Playing

Dear Kids,

Here are some stories about you.

You have always loved communicating with handwritten notes. You leave them all over the house. Recently I found ones that said “Can we play Minecraft togotor?” and “Will we be nis?”

Livia is wonderfully dramatic. One day she was playing with a flashlight. She suddenly turned to me and said, “Do you think this is a good ending?” Then she put the flashlight beam under her chin so that she looked scary, and she said in her raspiest voice, “And the lights went out!”

The school makes a big deal out of the Hundredth Day of School. As part of this year’s celebration, the principal called 100 parents to tell them positive stories about their children. I was one of the lucky parents to receive such a call. She read these comments from Marshall’s teacher: “Marshall has grown since the beginning of the year. His writing has improved. Everyone likes to hear his insightful comments about science.”

One day I asked you to write a paragraph about what you had done at school that day. Marshall wrote, “Today I got Fun on the Run (that’s a school lunch with a soft pretzel and yogurt). Then I played with some Story Cubes, and finally I investigated what the size of a wheel on a cart does to its motion.” His writing really has improved. Way to go, Marshall!

Speaking of Story Cubes, I didn’t know that you could play with them at school. We have some here, too, but we call them “Punishment Dice.”  To play Punishment Dice, you roll the cubes, then you use the pictures on them to make up stories about amazing adventures and/or how you’d like to punish your family. Isn’t that terrible? But you get such a kick out of it! I like the game, too, and you usually invite me on your amazing adventures rather than punish me.

I love joining you on your amazing adventures and being part of your everyday lives.

Love,

Mom

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SITY: Tom Turkey

Yesterday morning, as the children were getting ready for school, a pair of wild turkeys visited our yard. The birds were such a distraction that I’m still surprised the kids didn’t miss the bus. Sure, we’ve seen turkeys here before, but this was the first time we ever got to see a tom turkey with his feathers in full display. He strutted around the yard while the other turkey, presumably a female, snacked on something in the grass. He put on quite the show. (Sorry for the picture quality, though. I didn’t want to scare him off, so the first two pictures were taken from behind a closed window and at a distance.)

Tom Turkey strutting in the yard.

Fan-tastic display!

The kids needed to get to the bus stop, so eventually we had to open the door and go outside. The turkeys took that as their cue to leave. They moved fast. They were already in the woods by the time I was able to take a picture.

The turkeys return to the woods.

 

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Mother’s Day 2018

Sunday was Mother’s Day. I am fortunate to have both mother and mother-in-law to celebrate. First we went to my in-laws’ house to wish my mother in-law a happy day. Later, I called my mom and had a nice chat with her.

I am also fortunate to be a mother. My kids made the best gifts for me. From Livia, I got a wonderful bookmark (which she made at school), two small pieces of art, and this awesome poster.

She also made a card for me. She wrote,

Dear Mom, Thank you for going to Great Wolf Lodge with me. Thank you for taking care of me. Thank you for Love! Thank you for everything. I like doing fun stuff with you. I like it when we do Creativity Club. I like you and I hope you like me! I love you! Love, Livia

From Marshall, I got a marigold and this great portrait.

In this picture, he colored my shirt green, because green is my favorite color. He also put little green bees and yellow flowers around the border, because he knows how much I like finding green bees on dandelions in the yard. The red hearts and smiley faces are self-explanatory. 🙂

It was another great Mother’s Day!

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