Day 263: One Day Down

I took the Advent calendar out of storage last night. I was a little disappointed when I opened up the box and looked through the ideas that I had “paid forward” to myself back in January, because the pandemic has put the kibosh on many of them. But I’m glad that I didn’t know back in January what the rest of this year would be like. Ignorance was bliss.

On the bright side, I put the first ticket in the calendar last night so that it would be ready for the kids this morning. That was amazingly prompt of me (woohoo!). One day down, twenty-three more to go.

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Day 262: A Little Bit of Good

Today we had a parent-teacher conference with Livia’s teacher by phone. I would have preferred to have the conference in the usual way, which is for me to drive to the school and meet the teacher in person. But, the bright side of teleconferencing was that both my husband and I were able to take part. He had never been to a parent-teacher conference before, because on those nights when I used to go, he used to stay home with the kids, because someone had to. So, as with many things that the pandemic has changed, there was a little bit of good to be had along with the bad.

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Day 261: Unwilling Shopaholic

Like yesterday, I spent most of my day Christmas shopping. Christmas shopping is always time-consuming, but even more so when it’s done online. Why? Sometimes it’s because . . .

  • No matter how hard you look, the thing you want simply cannot be had, but you can’t stop trying until you’ve looked everywhere. You’d give up much sooner if driving were involved, but you’re already used to letting the computer have far too much of your time. This exercise in futility goes something like this: Maybe at this store’s website? (No.) But what about that one? (No!) Okay, but surely this store will have it? (NO!) Ah, I know just the one! (NO YOU DON’T! YOU CANNOT HAVE IT!).
  • Yes, the thing you want can be had . . . in 17 million varieties. Good luck choosing exactly the right one!
  • You want it in green, but they don’t have the right size in green, so you think maybe blue would be good, but the blue is bizarrely twice the price. If you’re willing to drive to Albuquerque to pick it up, you can get it in grey, but do you really want grey, and is it worth the drive to Albuquerque? If only you could talk yourself into the yellow, because they’d ship the yellow tomorrow. You know you don’t want the yellow and that there is no way you will ever order the yellow, but it’s still there in your mind, a phantom option.
  • You scroll and you scroll until you find exactly what you want, only to discover at the last possible moment that the shipping is ten times the price of the item and the item won’t ship until next century. Do you remember which website it was that had the next best thing, because that second-choice option is looking top-notch now, right? No? Too bad! Time to start over.
  • You must join the secret society to place an order, but first you need a verification code which will be sent by e-mail. You wait and you wait, but the e-mail never arrives. Never! The secret society has rejected you.
  • You need six things. Store A has items 1, 4, and 5. Store B has items 2, 3, and 4. Store C has items 1, 3, and 6. Not only can you not get all of the items from one store, or even two, but because you have to make three small orders instead of one large one, you don’t qualify for free shipping on any of them. So you shop for something else to buy at each store, some minor thing to throw you over the free shipping hurdle, because it’s better to pay for something you don’t necessarily want than to pay for the shipping that ought to be free, but somehow every extra item you convince yourself to buy still leaves you a few cents shy of the free shipping minimum. GGRRRAAAAAAGGGGGGHHH!

I know, I know. I’m lucky to have problems such as these. But they are frustrating and almost enough to make me miss the dehydration and endless checkout lines of mall shopping. Almost.

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Day 260: Unsuccessful Saturday

I did a lot of online Christmas shopping today. It was Small Business Saturday, and I tried to find local businesses from which to buy, but my success was limited. I ran into a lot of problems, some of which I will mention in a later post. I wish I could have done better, not only for the small business, but also for myself. I was hoping to get a lot more shopping done today ๐Ÿ™

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Day 259: Wedding Ring

Twitter asked me today, “If you’re married, do you wear your ring all the time?” I will answer that question here. First I have to say that I love my husband, and I love the ring, and I love that my husband bought the ring for me as a surprise gift before our wedding. It is beautiful. However, the answer is no. I do not wear my wedding ring all the time, or even at all these days.

I have good reasons, though. When we first got married, I wore the ring all day, every day. I was proud to wear it. But, as I went about my daily business–washing dishes, playing piano, etc.–I kept accidentally banging the ring into things, which was a danger to the ring and to the things it banged into and even, occasionally, to my hand. I am a bit of a klutz, and that was working against me.

For a while I tried simply taking the ring off whenever I had to do something with my hands. That was fine until I misplaced it a few times, and I realized that if I continued that way, I was going to lose the ring forever. I am notoriously absent-minded.

So then I started wearing the ring just for social occasions (i.e., whenever I was out of the house and likely to talk to anyone). That worked well. To everyone in the outside world, it would seem as if I always wore the ring, and I got to enjoy wearing it at those times without the worry of wrecking or losing it.

But currently I don’t wear the ring at all, because I’ve lost weight and it’s too big for me now. The last time I wore it, it randomly slipped off my hand. Fortunately, I was inside and the ring simply rolled across the floor, not into a gutter or a lake. Still, the incident upset me, and I haven’t worn the ring since. Someday, when the pandemic is over, I will take it to a jeweler and have it resized. Then I will go back to wearing it for social occasions, and it will be a joy both to wear the ring again and to have social occasions again!

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Day 258: Thanksgiving

Today my husband cooked us up a traditional Thanksgiving dinner with turkey, potatoes, and stuffing. Since it was such a small gathering, there was no point in getting all of our new dishes or flatware out, but I very deliberately washed four blue goblets, four crystal water glasses, and four Calamityware dinner plates the night before, so that we’d be able to use them. When I set the table, I gave myself the sea monster plate. Livia got the zombie poodles, Marshall got the black hole, and my hubbie got the pirates. Everyone seemed pleased with their catastrophe. I hadn’t purchased new table linens yet, so I used what I had on hand. They weren’t the colors I would have chosen, but at least they made the table look festive.

Livia loves to dress up, and by dressing up, she reminded the rest of us that we ought to make an effort to look decent. We weren’t well-dressed enough for a party, mind you, but at least we weren’t in our pajamas. After dinner, we had pumpkin pie for dessert, and then we played a few rounds of Kakerlakenpoker. It was a pretty good day. We took a few pictures for the photo album. It will be in stark contrast to last year, when I took pictures of my husband’s family in all sorts of combinations, and with so much success that I had more pictures than I could use. But we did what was right. We stayed home, and we stayed safe.

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Day 257: Pat on the Back

This week I finished my 37th book of the year (Piranesi by Susanna Clarke), and that means that I’ve already beaten my reading totals for the years 2105 (32), 2016 (35), 2017 (27), and 2019 (33). So, though I feel like I haven’t read enough books this year, I probably ought to give myself a pat on the back. And if I can maintain a normal reading pace for the remainder of the year, I might be able to tie or exceed my reading total from 2018 (42). Currently I am reading The Trees by Ali Shaw. It’s longish and could end up slowing me down, but I hope it will provide the eerie atmosphere that I’m craving in fiction right now.

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Day 256: What Could Have Been

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

Grade: B

`Between life and death there is a library,’ she said. `And within that library, the shelves go on for ever. Every book provides a chance to try another life you could have lived. To see how things would be if you had made other choices . . . Would you have done anything different, if you had the chance to undo your regrets?’

from “The Midnight Library”

The main character of The Midnight Library is Nora Seed, a woman in her thirties who feels as though her life has been a string of failures, and the story begins with scenes from the worst days of her life and her subsequent suicide. Instead of meeting her eternal reward or punishment, Nora becomes stuck between life and death, in a place called the Midnight Library. This library contains all the stories of all the lives that Nora might have lived, and here she is given the opportunity to try out different versions of herself and to choose the one that suits her best.

The best thing about The Midnight Library is that it invites us to consider the lives we might have had if we’d made different decisions. In conjunction with the documentary I watched the other day, this story made me think about the life I might have had if I’d chosen archaeology as my major in college. That’s an interesting train of thought, but I didn’t need to read an entire novel to get on board. And perhaps in part because I ultimately chose literature, I prefer a more nuanced reading experience than what The Midnight Library has to offer.

Everything about this book, from the plot to the message, is glaringly obvious. There’s little new to be found in this novel except for the concept of the Midnight Library itself, but it comes off more like an IKEA than a mystical book repository. The writing is also clunky, with sentence fragments strewn all along the way, some of them large enough to be tripping hazards.

But the novel’s greatest weakness is that it pulls too early, too hard, and too often on the strings of emotional manipulation. The best example is the first example: Nora’s downward spiral and suicide. A book should start with something intriguing or action-packed but not too emotionally laden. Readers need a chance to know a character and care about them before being subjected to a lifetime’s worth of their emotional pain. I was in a bad mental state when I started this book, and the opening scenes dragged me down deeper into my depression. This didn’t make me want to kill myself, nor would it have been the author’s fault if it had, but I caution potential readers of this book: be prepared for this extra weight of sadness.

Many other reviewers found this book to be life-affirming. Its message, which is that life is precious and that each of us matters more than we realize, is an important one, especially during difficult times such as these. If reading this book helps anyone to see that, then hooray for The Midnight Library. I will donate my copy to the real-life library and hope that it finds its ideal reader there.

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Day 255: Home Archaeology

Last night I watched a documentary on Netflix, Secrets of the Saqqara Tomb, which was about some recent (2018) archaeological finds at the Saqqara necropolis in Egypt. Among the things that the archaeologists found there were mummified animals, most of which were cats, but also a lion cub and a crocodile. It was interesting and, as it turns out, important training for my own archaeological dig, which I undertook today.

I didn’t know I was digging for mummies, mind you. I thought I was cleaning. But, deep in the recesses of the Living Roomopolis, I uncovered a desiccated frog corpse wrapped in layers of dust. Like the Ancient Egyptians, the people of the Living Roomopolis had once worshiped cats, and it’s unfortunate that they abandoned the practice, for surely a cat would have discovered and ousted the tiny amphibian intruder before it could perish indoors. I reacted to the discovery of the mummy with dismay and disgust, emotions unsuited to scientific research and evidence perhaps that I need more training. Therefore tomorrow I will continue to hone my skills by excavating in the Dining Roomopolis.

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Day 254: Let Us Hope So

One of the first things I’m going to do when this pandemic is over, right after cutting my hair short, will be to get my piano tuned. Before the pandemic I had already put the tuning off several times, simply because the house was a mess and I was embarrassed. Then the pandemic made it so that we didn’t want a stranger breathing our air. The end result is that my beautiful grand piano is out of tune to a degree that even I, who grew up playing on a perpetually untuned and untunable spinet, notice. It’s inadvisable to leave a piano out of tune for a long time, because it might relax into the lower tension and forever want to stay that way. But perhaps the piano and I won’t have to wait too much longer, now that there are several working vaccines on the horizon. Let us hope so (and for many reasons other than the tuning of my piano, obviously).

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