This Was My Day

Today…

  • Marshall’s bus was late again. Normally there’s at least 40 minutes between his bus and Livia’s, but today he arrived just before she did. So I had to wait outside in the rain for almost an hour. I already had a cold (yes, another one), which had me talking like a frog all day. Now I feel like I’m coming down with pneumonia. Thanks, bus.
  • I cooked broccoli as part of dinner tonight. That probably sounds unexciting, but if you knew how much I have always hated broccoli (the taste, texture, and smell of it), then you would also know how weird it is that I deliberately cooked some. I did it for the kids, who don’t eat enough veggies. I used frozen broccoli, because it comes prechopped. I opted to steam it, because I’ve always particularly hated boiled veggies. Then I ate some to test it, and it actually wasn’t bad. I have never in my life had any reaction to broccoli other than gagging, so it was kind of exciting. I only cooked a tiny bit, but since Marshall ate his small portion without complaint, and because I didn’t throw up after consuming mine, I will definitely prepare more next time. It wasn’t a 100% success, though, because Livia refused to touch it, and even got mad at me for putting a tiny piece on her plate. She is stubborn, just like her mother.
  • I played my piano today. I’m making good progress on one of the pieces that I started learning a few months ago. I can play it all the way through now, and I’ve started to memorize it. It’s got some tricky staccato triplets in it that I haven’t quite mastered yet, but they sounded better today.
  • I watched a movie (“Robot Overlords”) while I was working. I really shouldn’t have, but that’s part of why it was so much fun.
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Makeup Matters

I don’t care much about makeup personally. I only wear it for social occasions, and I do it mostly to make my husband happy. But if I ever wondered about how much of a difference it makes to my appearance, or if it was really worth the effort, I now have an answer. One day, after I put on my eyeliner and mascara, Livia asked me, “Why do your eyes look so much prettier?” And when I told her it was makeup, she said, “Can you do that to my eyes?”

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A Thought for Today About Tomorrow

What you create today, even if it seems disappointing to you now, will have great meaning to you in the future.

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Just Like “The Lorax”

As I was driving to CT a few months ago, I was surprised to see piles of trees along the side of the highway.

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I was awed by the scope of the destruction. It went on and on. And then, finally, the instrument of destruction was revealed.

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I had never seen anything like it before, except those tree-chopping machines that take down the beautiful Truffula trees in “The Lorax.” I had always thought that machines like that were just make-believe. I was wrong, and this machine was so much more terrifying, because it was real!

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Pine Needles & Pearly Whites

Dear Kids,

Here are some stories about you.

The Christmas tree dropped a lot of needles as it dried. You liked playing with the loose pine needles. You collected them in old Harney & Sons tea tins and Ziploc bags, and Livia even made some pine-needle art. You couldn’t seem to get enough of them, even though there was a shocking amount on the floor every day. You denied shaking the tree or brushing the needles off the branches deliberately. But the tree became nearly bare on its lower half, while its upper half was still full. Hmm. Suspicious.

You used to fight over our Kindle Fire, because you both liked playing video games on it. So we bought two new ones just for you. They have parental controls which allow us to limit you to one hour of play per day. This has changed the way you behave toward each other during video-game time. There’s no more fighting. Instead you discuss what’s going on in your respective games, share strategies, etc. It’s nice to see you cooperating! Your favorite game is “Plants vs. Zombies.” In this game, zombies are attacking your house, and you have to grow special plants and fungi to fight off the zombies. You often bring your tablets to me so that I can see your new plants and read the notes that the zombies leave for you. While you’re playing, our house is filled with the sounds and music of the game, and periodically I overhear strange comments, like Marshall saying, “Aw! Why do the zombies have to go on a real rampage?!” It’s surreal.

Huggie-hugs have become very popular around here. I used to give them only to Livia, but now everyone is doing huggie-hugs. I can’t speak for anyone else, but they cheer me up immensely. One morning, before I hit the road for a long day of work in CT, you both gave me huggie-hugs, and it made me feel so much more optimistic about the day. When I told Marshall that his huggie-hugs made me feel better, he said proudly, “I make you feel like a million bucks!” It’s true. You both do!

A delightful bit from a conversation between Marshall and Daddy while waiting for the morning bus to school:

  • Marshall: Why did the chicken cross the road?
  • Daddy: Why?
  • Marshall: So it could poop on your head.

Back in 2009, when we were trying to pick a name for our new baby boy, part of the appeal of the name “Marshall” was that it was uncommon but not unknown. We figured he’d be the only Marshall in his class, but that no one would think the name was weird. But lately we’ve been hearing the name all over the place. For example, Peyton Manning was just on TV with his son Marshall. And recently Marshall brought home a book from school. It is “Catch That Cookie” by Hallie Durand. The main character is named Marshall. Our Marshall was thrilled to see his name in print for the first time. So I guess I’m glad that the name made its way into “Catch That Cookie,” but it hope that it will continue to stay under the radar for most new parents (and authors), so that it will stay at the perfect level of rarity.

Livia has a great set of pearly whites. When she pretends to be a shark or a monster about to bite, she shows off those teeth, and wow! They are beautiful. She hasn’t lost a single one yet. This doesn’t surprise me. She was slow growing them, so it makes sense that she’d be slow to lose them. I’m glad she’s taking her time, because I will miss them once they’re gone.

Love,

Mom

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Lack of Expressions

Given how important facial expressions are, you’d think that there would be a lot of words for them. But when I tried to make a list, I was surprised at how few I came up with. Here is my list.

  1. Beam
  2. Fleer
  3. Frown
  4. Gape
  5. Glare
  6. Glower
  7. Grimace
  8. Grin
  9. Leer
  10. Lower (or lour)
  11. Moue
  12. Ogle
  13. Pout
  14. Rictus
  15. Scowl
  16. Simper
  17. Smile
  18. Smirk
  19. Sneer
  20. Stare

Some of these words are uncommon (like fleer, lower and moue). Some of them seem more likely to be used as verbs for staring (like glare, ogle, and stare). And some of them are synonyms (like grin and smile). That doesn’t leave us with a lot of variety. If you want to describe other facial expressions, you have to combine words, like “hangdog look,” “straight face,” “sorrowful smile,” and “furrowed brow.”

Now, don’t get me wrong. I like combining words. I’m just surprised that we have to when it comes to facial expressions. There ought to be more!

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It Gave Me Chills

I knew I was coming down with a cold today. But thanks to Marshall’s bus, which kept me waiting outside for 40 minutes in the freezing cold, now I feel like I’ve been run over by a truck. And I have the chills. Brrr.

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Livia Turns Five, No Six, No Five

Dear Livia,

We celebrated the 5th anniversary of your birth with a small party, just the four of us. We bought you a cake and a present, and we had plenty of fun. But your father and I felt bad that you don’t always get the big extended-family party like Marshall does. It’s usually due to weather (your birthday party is like a snow magnet!), but this year it was due to a lack of planning. We decided then that you should have the big party, too, late though it was. We scheduled it for the very last day of the month.

You and I happened to be out the day before your party, and I brought you to Target so you could pick out a gift for yourself. While we were waiting in line, you told the woman behind us that you were turning six! You were very excited about the idea of catching up in age with your brother.

But you must have sensed that something wasn’t quite right. On the way home, you asked, “Am I really turning six?” I tried to let you down easy, explaining that it’s the date, not the party, that changes your age. You seemed to understand.

So then everything was all set for the party. Even the weather turned out beautifully. But you, my poor dear, woke up with a fever of 104. You stayed in bed all morning, which is very unusual for you, a sure sign that you were truly unwell. When we told you that we were going to postpone the party, even that wasn’t enough to make you get out of bed. It just made you cry. You were so miserable that we promised you an extra little present and some cake. (This really worked out in your favor, because ultimately you got three presents from us and three cakes, lucky girl!)

The day before the rescheduled party, you happily chattered about turning five-and-a-half. What? Oh, no. You still thought the party was going to make you older!

Well, I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised. You’ve always seemed older than your calendar age, partly because you’ve always striven to keep up with your brother. If given the chance, you’d probably rocket straight through the next few years so that you could skip to the ages that come with more independence.

With that thought in mind, let me offer you some motherly advice on aging.

  • Slow down. Don’t rush your childhood. I know that most kids just want to grow up, and you more than some. But I also know that you will never swim in such a large and wild ocean of time again. Treasure it while you can.
  • Enjoy the stage you’re in now. Don’t experience your youth as a series of jumps from one milestone to another. Be happy in this moment, instead of always looking ahead to the next thing.
  • Last but not least, when you finally get to an age that makes you feel old, remember that you’re always younger now than you will be later. Someday you’ll look back on where you are now and think that you were so young then. That will be as true at 30 looking back on 20 as it will be at 40 looking back on 30, and so forth and so on, for the rest of your life. So savor your youth, and you might always have it.

This advice is way over your head now, Sunshine, but maybe someday you can use it. Or totally ignore it, which is what most people do with advice from their parents. At least you’ll have it, though, and know that I love you and wish you the best in life, at all times, whether you’re five, or six, or one-hundred six.

Love,

Mom

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Reading Together

Dear Kids,

I have read to you almost every night since you were tiny. I remember reading Dr. Seuss’s “Horton Hears a Who” to Marshall when he was just a baby. Sometimes he would even listen. And I remember how Livia wouldn’t sit still for books at all when she was a young toddler. It took a long time to get her interested in reading, but the struggle paid off. Now she loves books, too.

Think about that for a minute. There are 365 days per year. So, since we started when you were so young, we must have read together more than a thousand times! Isn’t that amazing?

Okay, sure. I haven’t read to you every single night. Your father sometimes reads to you. And there have been a handful of nights when we got home too late to read. There have also been times when one of you was being so naughty that we punished you by taking away your book. Yes, it’s an awful punishment, but we use it, because it works. You hate having your nightly book taken away! But even on those nights, unless your behavior has been supremely bad, you still get to listen to your sibling’s book.

We used to read just one book per night. When Livia got old enough to choose a book for herself, it became two. Sometimes I pick my own book to read (there are some favorites of mine that are not favorites of yours; I make sure those books get read from time to time). Also, the stuffed animals occasionally request a book. If I’m in a good mood, I’ll read to them, too.

More recently, Marshall was given a homework assignment of reading for 15 minutes every night. So now he reads a third book to us. His favorite books to read to us include “Secret Pizza Party” by Adam Rubin, “Sam & Dave Dig a Hole” by Mac Barnett, and the pigeon books by Mo Willems. One time he read “Don’t Let the Pigeon Stay up Late” in echo-talk (“Don’t-don’t let-let the-the pigeon-pigeon . . . ). Yeah, the whole book. I let him, too, because it was good for him.

Livia doesn’t like being left out of anything and will sometimes ask to read a book to us, too. She can’t really read yet, but she has memorized parts of books. She usually lets me help her with the parts that she doesn’t remember.

Reading to you can be a labor of love. Oh, how I suffer when you choose books that I dislike, especially when you want to hear them every night for weeks! Even delightful books, like those by Dr. Seuss, are a chore if I’m tired. And then there are times when you won’t sit still, and other times when you fight over who gets to sit in my lap (alas, you can’t both fit anymore). And reading aloud is not so much fun when I’m sick and can barely squeak the words past my sore throat.

But most of the time reading to you is wonderful. Having one of you sitting snugly in my lap, and with both of you listening intently, I am the star. The show is anything from the brief-but-cute “Peek-a-Who” by Nina Laden to several pages of J.K. Rowling’s “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone.” I hope that you will remember at least some of the great times we’ve shared this way.

Now, with Marshall capable of reading on his own, and Livia on the cusp of reading, I am starting to see, looming in the future, an end to our bedtime reading. If we’re lucky, the longer-format books, like the Harry Potter series, will save this tradition for us longer than it might otherwise last. Reading alone is great, but reading together is a rare pleasure, one that we might never experience again later in life. There are so many books that we could explore together. I hope you will want to read with me for years to come.

Love,

Mom

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Interesting Afternoon

Yesterday I discovered that I had made an error at work. It was a tiny, one-letter error, but a poorly placed one. It was the kind of thing that was not only embarrassing but could also land me in some hot water.

I thought that there might still be time to fix the mistake, but just barely. I needed to take care of it immediately, and I needed help from a coworker. Unfortunately, it was was time to pick up Marshall at the bus stop. So I decided that I’d sent out a quick e-mail and then follow it up with a phone call when I got back inside.

I waited impatiently for the bus. When it finally arrived, I explained the situation to Marshall, and we hurried up the driveway. We got to the door, and it was locked!

Of course I hadn’t locked it, but somehow it had gotten locked. No one else was home.  I didn’t have the keys or a phone on me. I tried all the other doors: locked. The screens on the windows couldn’t be opened from the outside. I tried the keypad that’s supposed to open the garage door, but I couldn’t get the code right. We were locked out, and the clock was ticking, and to make matters worse, it was freezing outside!

This was the point at which some people would have broken a window. But, though I am crazy most of the time, I’m usually calm in emergencies. I wasn’t going to break a window unless it was a matter of life or death. So I continued to think about ways to get into the house and came up with one last thing to try.

And it worked! It shouldn’t have, and normally wouldn’t have, but I got lucky. Once we were back inside, I made my phone call and took care of the work-related problem. So I neither froze nor ended up in hot water. But it certainly did make for an interesting afternoon!

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