Yesterday’s Walk

While I rave all the time about the convenience of having state park land right behind my house, I think the woods up there are less than exciting. There’s a spot we call the Scenic Overlook, but it doesn’t overlook much, nor is it particularly scenic, unless you enjoy a view of cell phone towers. There are some old stone walls, a couple of old stone foundations, and reportedly an old quarry, though I haven’t discovered it yet. There’s a sort of scary spot with an abandoned truck and a marsh I call the Oil Can Swamp (because someone dumped dozens of old oil cans there). Nice, huh? It was the only place in the woods I can remember feeling unsafe.

But mostly there are rocks and trees, so many and so alike that one area of woods looks very much like another. My husband went walking up there last week and got himself lost. I could laugh at him, perhaps make a dumb joke about men never stopping to ask for directions, but the truth is that getting lost out there is easy because there are so few distinctive features to act as landmarks. A few of the trails are marked but most aren’t. And to add to the confusion, the people who ride their dirt bikes and ATVs around the park are constantly creating new paths, some of them only feet apart. Never mind the fact that they’re slowing ruining the park (that’s a gripe for another day), but it’s hard to keep track of all their little “diversions” and how the many new paths intersect.

I almost always know where I am in the woods, though. I have traveled the main path enough times to be able to follow it consistently, even with all the confusing side paths. Perhaps I know the path too well. It seems boring to me now, so these days I have to find ways to keep myself interested during my walks. Sometimes I look for specific things (like blueberry patches and pussy willows). Sometimes, like yesterday, I just try to look for something different, something that I’ve never noticed before.

Here are the things I noticed yesterday.

There is nothing like a rainy day to bring out the greens in the woods. The pine trees looked especially beautiful.

Part of the state park is known for its quartz, but not there part near my house. Until yesterday, I had never seen any nearby. Here, a seam of quartz.

I once saw a deer up in the woods (it scared the heck out of me as it suddenly bounded through the brush), but I have never seen one anywhere near our house. We know they’re around, though, because they leave evidence. Yesterday, I found one of their “calling cards.”

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Le Pee

I think I want to read this book.

Not only don’t you need to drink eight glasses of water every day, you cannot in any way make your complexion more youthful by drinking water. Your body’s water-balance mechanisms are tuned with the precision of a digital chemistry lab, and you cannot possibly “hydrate” your skin from the inside by drinking an extra bottle or two of Perrier. You just end up with pee sourced in France.

from The Big Thirst: The Secret Life and Turbulent Future of Water by Charles Fishman

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Ready, Set, Action!

Taking a walk was the last thing I felt like doing today, but I needed the exercise. I needed to do it for both my mental and my physical states. I hate being overweight. It makes me feel bad. Worse yet, it makes my knees ache and it saps my energy.

But it’s not just about me anymore. When I got married and had children, I stopped being just an individual. I became part of a new family, and now I’m responsible to the other members of the family. If I’m tired or sick, my family suffers, so I must get into better shape not just for my own good, but for theirs, too.

So I forced myself to take a walk by planning a trip to the library. My favorite walking path loops through the woods that surround the library. I usually start my walk in the same place and going the same direction, but today I decided to change things up by starting in a different spot and going the opposite direction.

Perhaps it was the slightly different angle of view that allowed me to notice a few new things on the path. As I’ve mentioned before, there is a lot of poison ivy growing in that patch of woods. There are thick, hairy poison ivy vines twining up many of the trees along the path. Poison ivy spreads very easily in the environment that we (mankind) have created for it. A massive poison ivy infestation creates a launch pad for invasions in other places, because the birds eat the berries and then spread them hither and yon. Well, my my husband will be thrilled to know that someone finally took a hatchet to some of the vines. So thanks, Hatchet Wielder! You’ve done us all a great service.

I also found some pussy willows. How I love them! In all the years I’ve been walking on this path, I never noticed them before. I would love to pick a bunch, but taking them from such a public area wouldn’t exactly be nice. I think instead that I’ll start searching for pussy willows in the woods behind my house. Marshy areas abound, so there must be some pussy willows somewhere out there. And now that I know it’s the right time of year for them, I may be able to spot them more easily.

It was a good walk. I’m glad I forced myself to go, and equally glad that I forced myself to write about it as soon as I got home. That’s how this post got done even though it was a busy day. I guess that’s how most important things get done: first you make the time and then you will yourself to action.

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BFFs

Poirot’s know-it-all attitude even irritates his best friend, Hastings, from time to time. In “The Million Dollar Bond Robbery,” Hastings says, “Good Lord, Poirot! Do you know, I’d give a considerable sum of money to see you make a thorough ass of yourself—just for once. You’re so confoundedly conceited!”

Poirot replies, “Do not enrage yourself, Hastings. In verity, I observe that there are times when you almost detest me! Alas, I suffer the penalties of greatness!”

He follows his reply with a comical sigh, which makes Hastings laugh.

There is no person on this planet who doesn’t occasionally get annoying. That’s why we need best friends. They forgive our imperfections, and they make us laugh.

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Monumental Feelings

I picked up some books from the library yesterday, and while was there, I noticed that someone had spruced up the monuments with fresh flags and flowers.

And I wondered what they (the sprucer-uppers and also the original erectors of the monument) wanted me to feel when looking upon this monument to combat veterans. Patriotism? Pride? Gratitude?

Grateful I am, but not proud. Not proud to live in a society that glorifies war. Not proud to be a member of the only species on earth that goes to war with itself.

I see this monument and I think about all the young soldiers, scared, wounded, dying in pain, all their dreams lost, all their talents wasted, all their families crying.

Was that what I was supposed to feel? Frankly, I’d rather the monument builders and minders spent their efforts on trying to prevent future wars, or end current ones.

To learn from our mistakes—that would be a real tribute to our war dead.

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Spring Poetry

Yesterday I saw my first robin of the spring. Seeing him made me think of one of Emily Dickinson’s poems.

A Bird came down the Walk —
He did not know I saw —
He bit an Angleworm in halves
And ate the fellow, raw,

And then he drank a Dew
From a convenient Grass —
And then hopped sidewise to the Wall
To let a Beetle pass —

He glanced with rapid eyes
That hurried all around —
They looked like frightened Beads, I thought —
He stirred his Velvet Head

Like one in danger, Cautious,
I offered him a Crumb
And he unrolled his feathers
And rowed him softer home —

Than Oars divide the Ocean,
Too silver for a seam —
Or Butterflies, off Banks of Noon
Leap, plashless as they swim.

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Deathbed Confessions

It was a cold, winter night one Christmastime when I got the call. My grandfather was in the hospital and the doctors did not think he would make it through the night. I met up with my parents, and we all took the long drive north. It was near midnight when we arrived at the hospital.

My aunt and uncle were there, watching over my grandfather as he slept.  We perched uncomfortably on the hard hospital chairs, waiting for him to wake up, hoping we’d at least get a chance to say good-bye. We talked about this and that. There was a lull in conversation, and I was quietly drowsing, when suddenly, loudly, my aunt announced, “My son’s gay.”

My mother, taken off guard, stared at my aunt for a moment in disbelief, then said, “Chick knows gay people.”

Chick knows gay people. Like I’d written the “Suburban Housewife’s Guide to Gays” or something. It was so funny that it shocked me back to wakefulness.

As they continued to discuss this amazing revelation, others things became clear. For one thing, my Gaydar was crap. Had I learned nothing at college, hanging out with gay people, dancing at gay clubs, drinking gay drinks? Apparently not. I never would have guessed that my cousin was gay.

My aunt is a big woman with an even bigger attitude, but that night she showed her equally big heart. It was a testament to her love for her son that she immediately started trying to accept him as he was, rather than to push him away or try to change him. Oh, she did it in her characteristic fashion—kicking, screaming, swearing, and name calling—but she did it.

My mother can be a stern woman, but she proved that night that she can also be flexible. It was a testament to her love for her brother and his family that she made the Olympic leap necessary to find any connection, however tenuous, to this foreign and unexpected idea. It was a stretch for her, and it was fortunate that she thought of me first, and not my brother, because “My son has a gay neighbor” might not have gone over as well.

And it was a testament to the atmosphere of love and acceptance that my grandfather created around him, even as he lay near death, that these two women, so different from one another, could wrestle with their prejudices together at such a difficult time—and win!

They weren’t the only ones victorious that night. My grandfather pulled through. He stayed with us until April 7, four years ago today. My cousin, who is lucky to live in a state where same-sex marriage is legal, has since married. Now everyone in the family can say that they know gay people. And they know that gay people are just people, people who need their mothers, their aunties, and their cousins, and who miss their grandfathers, just like the rest of us.

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Facts and Theories

According to M. Poirot,

[People] conceive a certain theory, and everything has to fit into that theory. If one little fact will not fit it, they throw it aside. But it is always the facts that will not fit in that are significant.

from Death on the Nile

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The Truth About Bakers

Just because someone bakes yummy cakes doesn’t mean they’re nice.

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Reading in 2010

I read 59 books in 2010. That’s not too bad considering that pregnancy diverted most of my mental energy for the better part of the year. Of course, most of the books were either children’s books or mysteries, which means they were relatively short and simple. So what. I read what I wanted to read and I enjoyed myself.

Favorite overall: There were so many A’s that it’s hard to choose, but I think my favorite was probably Charlotte’s Web by E.B. white.

Favorite reread: Several of the books from 2010 were rereads, but Dragondoom by Dennis L. McKiernan stood out. It’s so good and so bad. It’s a guilty pleasure.

Biggest surprise: I had very low expectations when I started reading The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, but I ended up loving it. It was my second favorite for the year.

We are well into 2011, but I haven’t done much reading yet. My daughter is nearly three months old now, and she’s starting to settle into a routine that includes a couple of naps. I hope this means I’ll be able to find more time for reading soon.

Wishing everyone another great year of reading,

Chick

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