Obstacles

Is it any wonder that I don’t play my piano often? There are so many obstacles in my way. First, the situation has to be just right. The children must be either out of the house or soundly asleep, and my husband must not be in the living room watching TV.

Then, to get the piano ready, I have to move the clutter that has accumulated on it. Grr! When my husband first started putting things on my piano, I told him to cut it out. But there’s nowhere else to put things, such as the remote control for the TV, so that Marshall can’t reach. That’s why my husband puts stuff there and why, though it makes me angry, I put up with it.

Next, I have to pull back or remove the cover. We keep the piano covered so that the cats can’t do any damage to it. We know they would eventually harm it. If they couldn’t scratch it, they’d find a way to get their puke into it.

Then I have to fetch the key to unlock the piano. Once Marshall learned how to open up the keyboard, I had to start locking it. Can’t you just imagine him stuffing Cheerios between the keys and pouring milk over them? I can! That’s why I lock it.

I also have to move the piano bench in from the kitchen. Marshall figured out that he could pull the bench from under the piano and use it to reach the stuff on top of the piano (and also to climb onto the piano—yikes!). So I had to start storing the bench in the kitchen, where he can’t get to it.

Last but not least, I have to be in the mood.

Geez! It practically requires a special planetary alignment for me to play!

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Marshall, Music, and Mommy

Dear Marshall,

Of the many things I hope for you, a love of music is one of the most important. I don’t necessarily want to turn you into a Juilliard-trained instrumentalist. Not that it would be a bad thing, but it’s not for everyone, and I’m not going to push you down that road unless it’s right for you.

No, what I really want is for you to love music so that it will always be there for you as a source of joy, entertainment, healing—whatever you need from it. I want you to feel comfortable making music, too, whether with your voice or your hands, or just tapping your toes. I also hope you’ll be able to dance without being self-conscious about it.

Your musical progression so far:

  • I sang to you often when you were an itty-bitty baby. It calmed you during the nights when you would cry.
  • When you got a little older, we sometimes played a game in which we’d sing single notes back and forth. Well, I’d sing and you’d sort of shout, but it was cute. As you improved, the game became more complex, and we’d sing multiple notes (for example, “Nah nah nah NAH,” as in Beethoven’s “Fifth”).
  • I hope I never forget that time in your father’s office when you danced like mad to “Heart of Rock and Roll” by Huey Lewis and the News.
  • Last Christmas, I sang “Jingle Bells” to you over and over again because you liked it so much. Just a few weeks ago, I was changing your diaper, and you started to hum the song. You probably weren’t even aware that you were doing it. I was amazed that you remembered so much of it! So when I finished the diaper change, I sang the song to you, and you started doing a silly “dance,” running around in a circle. At the end of the song, you said, “Agan! Agan! Agan!” This quickly became a favorite game. After several rounds, you would get so dizzy you could barely walk, but you’d stumble around going, “Agan!” I caught the whole thing on video, so we’ll be able to show it to all your friends when you’re older. Mother’s prerogative. ๐Ÿ˜‰
  • Recently, you switched favorites. Now you request “Row, Row, Row Your Boat.” You can sing the first line (“Row, row, row your boat”). You ignore the part that goes, “Gently down the stream.” Next is “Mooey, mooey” for “Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.” Then you say, “Agan!”

I wonder what our next musical game will be. Whatever it is, I can’t wait to play it agan and agan.

Love,

Mom

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Saying It Like It Is

Poirot was typically kind, but he wasn’t afraid to speak his mind. I wish I had the chutzpah to say this to someone’s face, as he did in Murder on the Orient Express.

If you will forgive me for being personal—I do not like your face.

In the story, Poirot gave that as a reason for rejecting someone’s case, but I think it would be applicable in many situations.

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Reading Roundup

I don’t have much time to talk about the books I’ve read this year, but I don’t want to leave them completely unmentioned, so here are a few words about the ones I haven’t covered yet.

Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie
Grade: A-

Murder on the Orient Express isn’t one of Christie’s best. I read it a while ago, but as I recall, the description is terse, the formula obvious, and the dialogue rather dull and procedural. But the setting is perfect (a snowbound train), the murder itself is interesting, and of course, Hercule Poirot is as awesome as ever. A must-read for fans of Christie and fans of the genre but perhaps not for others.

Skippy Dies by Paul Murray
Grade: A+

Because I look up to authors, I expect them to be older than I. Paul Murray is actually younger. Younger, but perhaps wiser. Certainly a better writer. He really knows his way around a simile, and when he describes a thing, you see it, hear it, feel it. I can’t remember ever admiring anyone’s prose more.

The premise of Skippy Dies is simple. A young student at a Catholic boarding school dies. Then the author tells you how it came to be so.

Though Skippy Dies is advertised as a comedy, it is at heart a tragedy, a sad story filled with drugs, violence, and sexual abuse. Because of that, I cannot recommend it for all, but for those who can stomach reading about the darker side of modern life, this is a rich, beautifully described story with memorable characters.

A Share in Death and Leave the Grave Green by Deborah Crombie
Grade: B- for each

I am very conscious of the fact that authors are real people and that criticism sometimes hurts, even when it comes from complete strangers, and even when those strangers are not necessarily qualified to make such judgments. So I’ll say sorry in advance. (Sorry!)

With all due respect for the author’s success, I don’t think this series is very good. My expectations were high, having heard of Crombie’s mystery series, of which A Share in Death is the first book, from another blogger with an intense love of reading and a fondness for mysteries in particular. Those high expectations might have been part of the problem. Having just read Skippy Dies, which might be one of those books that stands the test of time and is eventually hailed as a classic, probably didn’t help either.

The writing is tolerable but not great. Many descriptions (particularly the descriptions of various car trips) sound like they were created using an atlas or other reference material. I also had the hardest time separating my irritation over a particular scene in A Share in Death from my opinion of the book as a whole. In that scene, the detective goes to a suspect’s apartment to question her again, and he finds her disheveled and upset. Her lover had just previously struck her in the face and forced sex on her. She repeatedly states that she was not a willing participant. In my book, that’s assault and rape. You’d think that one of Scotland Yard’s superintendents would at least tell the woman that she has the right to press charges against her assailant. Or counsel her to go to the hospital. But no, he just continues with his line of questioning and then leaves. That’s not right, not morally, and not given his profession. And it is especially jarring because he’s ordinarily so incredibly touchy-feely.

Who is this this detective, this Duncan Kinkaid? I don’t know. The author frequently describes his clothes and his car but rarely gives us any solid character traits for us to latch onto. I cannot envision him. I cannot appreciate his method (for he seems to have none but the basic “run around and ask a lot of questions” technique). I cannot laugh at him or see myself in him. The only things I remember about him are that he’s young (unusually young for a Scotland Yard superintendent), he’s divorced, he likes beer, he thinks about his feelings quite often, and he falls for women easily.

If you’re going to base a whole series of books on one particular character, it had better be a strong character! Hercule Poirot was a Belgian with peculiar habits, a glorious mustache, extreme vanity, and a firm belief in the power of the “little grey cells.” He was unique, interesting, memorable. Miss Marple was a busybody, an expert on village life, a woman with a keen understanding of human nature. No one expected that little old lady to know anything, but she was unexpectedly clever and therefore memorable. Duncan Kinkaid is not memorable (his sergeant is a little memorable—too bad she turns into a nitwit when she falls for him romantically).

If Crombie, in dwelling on Kinkaid’s outfits, had at least given him an article of clothing as unique as Indiana Jones’s hat or, more aptly, Columbo’s raincoat, then it would be relevant and interesting. But unless he’s wearing something special, I couldn’t care less about his wardrobe. And that time when he got turned on by one of the suspects and wished he had been wearing pants that would better camouflage his erection? Ugh.

In desperate need for a simple, easily-devoured book, I finished the first novel, enjoying it just barely enough to continue to a second (Leave the Grave Green). The second was no better. I tried to read the next one after that but couldn’t take the rapid nosedive into cheesy-romance-novel territory. It was beyond redemption within the first 50 pages. Ugh again. That book plus a fourth, both of which I borrowed from the library “just in case,” will go back unread.

Is it possible that 99% of mysteries are poorly written? Because having encountered so many bad ones, I’m beginning to wonder.

The Wonderful O by James Thurber
Grade: A-

Clever, clever, clever. No one was cleverer than James Thurber. He had an amazing ear for language, and his children’s books are both well-crafted and unique. The Wonderful O is as clever as any of his books, perhaps too much so. After a while, the wordplay disrupts the flow of the story to the point that it gets a little tedious. Still, a remarkable book, definitely worth reading for fans of Thurber and those who love language and wordplay.

Small Steps by Louis Sachar
Grade: B-

I loved Holes, an earlier novel of Sachar’s. Small Steps is not quite a sequel, but it does feature a couple of characters from that book. I therefore expected it to have the magic of Holes. It didn’t.

Here’s what happens. The main character, Armpit, mishears the lyrics of a pop song. He thinks it sounds like the singer is asking for his help. He ends up meeting the singer and eventually she does need his help.

If Sachar had managed to focus on the magic in that idea (and it is there), he could have woven it through the novel as he did in Holes. But he didn’t and the results are poor. I don’t recommend this book.

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Old Letters, Old Age

Poirot says,

“Oh, la la, never does a woman destroy a letter if she can avoid it! Not even if it would be more prudent to do so!”

from “The Adventure of ‘The Western Star'”

After reading this quote, I went searching through my Memory Box for an old love letter someone gave me once upon a time. I could not find it. Did I throw it away? It seems unlikely, though I did once rip up a different love letter. Destroying that letter seemed prudent at the time, but I think it was ultimately a mistake. I would really get a kick out of reading it today if I could.

Digging through my Memory Box, I found many other letters, cards, journals, and various mementos. It made me realize again how much of my past I have forgotten. I have talked many times about trying to write my memories down. I hope I can find the time someday soon, before the fog of Age takes even more of them away from me.

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Sugar High

Dear Marshall,

At your birthday party, you ate cake. You’re not used to so much sugar, and later you were acting crazy. You even kicked your sister a couple of times and we said, “He usually doesn’t act like that!” Your grandfather said, under his breath, “In sucrose veritas.” I turned to him and said, “Hey, I speak pseudo-Latin and I know what that means!” He just laughed. For the record, it means, “In sugar there is truth.” Or, to put it another way, “Sugar makes you act the way you really feel.”

True, you have been a little resentful of Livia lately. Now that she’s mobile, she’s often in your way. Worse yet, she tries to play with your toys and eat your books. You must be thinking, “Hey, no one gets to eat my books but me!”

Sorry, Sweetie, but you’re going to have to share. You’ll be thankful later in life to have such a wonderful sister. I’m sure of it.

In the meantime, stay off the sugar!

Love,

Mom

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Mood Swings

I wonder if certain people might be able to get away with a crime for just this very reason, as stated by M. Poirot.

It is perhaps a fault with us detectives. We expect the behaviour to be always consistent. We do not allow for changes of mood.

from Murder on the Orient Express

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Little Sleep Thief and Other Stories

Dear Livia,

Here are some more stories about you.

  • It is impossible to sing you to sleep. When I start to sing, you perk up and smile. I guess you really like music. Or you think my attempts at singing are funny. Either way is fine by me. I just love to see you smile, even when I’m trying to get you to sleep.
  • You’re not even 6 months old yet and you’re already mobile. You “swim” more than crawl, but you’re fast. You can make it across Marshall’s bedroom in under 10 seconds. Though you’ll explore anywhere, your favorite place to be is in Marshall’s room with his toys. You just can’t wait to put them all in your mouth.
  • You have extremely sweaty feet. Seriously. They are always wet, regardless of the temperature and whether or not you’re wearing socks. The base of your bouncy seat gets damp from your feet rubbing on it. When I Googled “sweaty baby feet,” I found a lot of references, so it must be a common condition. Supposedly it goes away. We can only hope. ๐Ÿ™‚
  • You have the most adorable laugh. You still sometimes laugh when your clothes are being changed, but not as often. I miss it. I have found, though, that saying “Goggy!” to you in a rough voice as I lean toward you makes you laugh for some reason. I do it over and over again, and you keep chuckling.
  • You are very vocal. Your father and I often joke that you’re going to speak before Marshall does.
  • You are clever. Already I can see the signs. Yesterday, in my office, you were crawling around, looking for something to do, when you came up against my file cabinet. You looked up at it, thought for a moment, then very deliberately moved around it.
  • It’s amazing that I have any hair left. You just keep pulling, and pulling, and pulling.
  • Your first tooth broke through just a few days ago. Hooray!
  • Having sprouted a tooth, you deserve some solid food. I want to make an occasion out of your “first cereal,” so it may take a while to get it together, because your father and I will both need to be present and to have a camera ready.
  • You used to sleep from about 7:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m., with just one feeding around midnight. That was great, but I wasn’t getting quite enough sleep, so your father took over the midnight feeding. As soon as we made that change, you started getting up at 4:30 – 5:30. So now I’m getting less sleep, not more. Little sleep thief!
  • You are so adorable. Looking at you, I think how sad it is that we’ll never have another baby. But it also makes you that much more precious to us. Marshall was our first and always special for that reason. You are our last and equally special in that way.

Love,

Mom

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Love = Party

Dear Marshall,

Last weekend was your 2nd birthday party. Family from both sides came to dine and spoil you to bits. And what a haul of gifts you got! Sand toys, water toys, clothes, books, cars, among other things. You are one lucky boy.

It was nice for us, too, not only to watch you enjoying yourself, but also to have the gates open, chairs in the dining room, and the piano bench at the piano. Your dad even put the glass in the living room table. It was like living in a normal house for a change.

But it was stressful, the preparations as well as the party itself. I really don’t like entertaining people in our home, but I didn’t want you to miss an opportunity to spend time with family. For you, I’ll do almost anything.

I’m not sure I’d eat broccoli for you, though. Even a mother’s love has limits. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Love,

Mom

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Traveling Man

A description of Poirot’s ride on a camel:

He started by groans and lamentations and ended by shrieks, gesticulations and invocations to the Virgin Mary and every Saint in the calendar. In the end, he descended ignominiously and finished the journey on a diminutive donkey.

from “The Adventure of the Egyptian Tomb”

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